Actress Jorja Fox: “Since my early 20s, I’ve felt I had to wear heels when I get dressed up. You want to look great and you want to be like everyone else, you know? But now that I’m in my 40s, I’ve noticed I care a lot less what people think about me. And when you’re 5’9” and you wear heels, you’re towering over almost every woman in the room and half the men. It’s always been a little uncomfortable and not that fun. So I’ve given it up! I don’t feel guilty about showing up at a party or an event in flats anymore. I’m more comfortable and I still feel beautiful. So nowadays, I’m the one looking for cool flats when I’m looking at dress shoes. And I don’t miss the high heels at all!”
Emmy Award-winning actress Jorja Fox stars on CBS’s hit show CSI: Crime Scene Investigation.
Makeup artist Lauren Napier: “The best thing I ever gave up is the fear of the word ‘quit.’ People always say, ‘Don’t be a quitter. Quitters never win.’ Or, ‘Don’t quit, what will I do without you?’ The reality is, sometimes you have to quit. If you don’t quit and redirect your life, you can’t move forward. We shouldn’t feel so guilty about ending something that no longer makes us feel good or helps us live our life to the fullest. Instead, we should support the courage it takes for someone to move on. You see, once the quitter takes the leap, the words we use to describe that quitter are words like bold, brave and inspiring! What’s wrong with quitting a job, or ending a relationship? Being a quitter can be liberating and revitalizing. Quite often, quitting is more than an end, it’s another beginning!”
Lauren Napier is one of the top makeup artists in the U.S., with clients including Ben Affleck, President Bill Clinton, Daniel Craig, Drake, Tina Fey, Lady Gaga, Anne Hathaway, Lady Antebellum, John Legend, Adam Levine and Bruno Mars. She’s also the founder of Cleanse by Lauren Napier, a revolutionary facial cleansing wipe made in the United States and produced using solar energy at a female-owned manufacturing facility.
Author Joan Wickersham: “After years of dieting, losing, gaining, losing again, gaining again, I finally gave up sugar and flour the way an alcoholic gives up booze: I couldn’t be moderate and so I cut it out entirely. Sometimes it’s a little weird socially – I’m the person who won’t even taste the birthday cake – but I lost 80 pounds and it’s one of the most positive and liberating things I’ve ever done. There used to be a constant monologue going on in my head – I have to make a tough phone call, maybe a little treat beforehand would help. I just made the phone call and it didn’t go well, maybe a little treat would be comforting. I just made the phone call and it did go well, I deserve a little treat to celebrate. I just made the phone call and didn’t have a treat, so I must not have a problem with food, and it’s okay to have a little treat. I don’t have that yammering anymore. The silence is wonderful.”
Joan Wickersham is the author of award-winning books of fiction – The News from Spain: Seven Variations on a Love Story – and memoir – The Suicide Index. She lives in the Boston area and writes a regular column for the Boston Globe and the International Herald Tribune.
Photograph of Jorja Fox by Elizabeth Messina. Photograph of Joan Wickersham by Michael Lionstar. ©2014.
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